Life Unexpected- How to find Self Identity and Listen to Your Gut

I love it when life brings you an unexpected gift. One of mine came in the form of a smart, energetic, High School guidance counselor. I met Ashley at school where we both worked. For quite some time our relationship consisted of game planning to better assist our students but as the year came to an end I gained a friend.

My greatest take away is to always be proactive in any situation you are in. Below are a few books that helped Ashley reclaim her happiness, know her greatness, and move forward with a positive outlook. These are affiliate links, so you don’t pay a penny more, but I might get a little commission if you choose to purchase. Simply click the picture!

  “Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a “yes woman” who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask.”
With liberal use of his own adventures in love and courtship, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Manis an honest, compelling, and realistic examination of how men think about love and sex and what women need to know so that they can set realistic expectations of the men in their life.”

 My personal favorite!
“In this refreshingly entertaining how-to guide, #1 New York Times Bestselling Author and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero, serves up 27 bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and the occasional swear word. If you’re ready to make some serious changes around here, You Are a Badass will help you: Identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want, blast past your fears so you can take big exciting risks, figure out how to make some damn money already, learn to love yourself and others, set big goals and reach them – it will basically show you how to create a life you totally love, and how to create it NOW. By the end of You Are a Badass, you’ll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can’t change, how to change what you don’t love, and how to use The Force to kick some serious ass.”
Or the OG that started my self-love journey, Eat, Pray, Love! “In her early thirties, Elizabeth Gilbert had everything a modern American woman was supposed to want—husband, country home, successful career—but instead of feeling happy and fulfilled, she was consumed by panic and confusion. This wise and rapturous book is the story of how she left behind all these outward marks of success, and set out to explore three different aspects of her nature, against the backdrop of three different cultures: pleasure in Italy, devotion in India, and on the Indonesian island of Bali, a balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence.”

Remember, you are worth all the wonderful things this world has to offer!

X O X O,


18 thoughts on “Life Unexpected- How to find Self Identity and Listen to Your Gut

  1. In the past, so many times, my gut instinct (or intuition) was right, but it was so confusing to me at the time, that I didn’t listen to it. Nowadays, I try my best to go with what feels right, even if it doesn’t all make sense yet 🙂

    1. I think that’s great Jojo! And honestly sometimes we can’t make sense of it but the feeling is strong for a reason

  2. I have learned ( the hard way) over the years to learn to listen to my gut… and it’s usually correct!! 🙂

  3. I have definitely been smacked in the face by my gut when I decided to not listen to it in the past before! I tried not to do that now. Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man is such a phenomenal book!! I’ve read it a few times now lol. Great post and suggestions, thank you!

  4. You are a bad ass is on my list of reads. I’ve seen the eat pray love movie so I think I’m good there.

  5. Having been a victim of domestic violence i learned the hard way to listen to my gut. Unfortunately now sometimes i am too cautious.

    1. I’m so sorry Shannon. I too have found myself in a few bad situations like the one you’ve gone through. I hope you find your balance and take the time to really appreciate YOU! I have a feeling you’re pretty incredible

  6. I am with you! It is so important to listen to our intuition. This niggily feelng and when youve been proven right you wished you had of followed your gut

    1. I think it’s a learning process to listen to your intuition. For me it took getting into my late 20’s for me to be in tune with it. But now it’s an amazing resource to me that guides me through life

  7. I have not learned to listen to my gut completely yet. I usually get it together at the end before things get to serious. But I do need to learn how to go with my first gut feeling.

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